| Wanting to avoid sorrow and pain is
very natural. In fact, people can go to extremes to avoid these and
other uncomfortable feelings. However, grieving is a necessary part of
loss. It is the only way for you and others you care for to begin to
When you lose someone you love, sadness
and pain are natural emotions. When you allow yourself to fully
experience them, you are acknowledging how important the person was to
you. In addition, when you express your emotions to the other people in
your life, and give them the opportunity to do the same, this sharing
creates a special bond as well as being an important release.
Although many people are uncomfortable
with the emotions of grieving, they should not only be allowed but also
encouraged. Young children, especially, need this support when they
have lost someone who was dear to them. Whether they express in tears
or words, or both, it is as essential to youngsters as it is to the
adults. They need to know that what they are feeling is valid,
understood, and important.
The funeral service and special time at
home are two of the most appropriate settings for sharing the grieving
process. You are in a safe place, surrounded by people who care about
you, and cared for your loved one as well. They understand what you are
going through, and their compassion will make all the difference in the
world. The companionship expressed through words or a hug will make
this difficult time easier for everyone in your family.
Sharing the grieving process with
others is almost always for the best. A time of loss is not the time to
be alone. You and your other family members and friends can be there
for each other, and be supportive of what each person is going through.
When you feel safe and supported, you can express your deepest
emotions. This is the essential first step toward healing and being
able to move on with your life. The grieving process will not last
forever, but the bonds you create with others will.